I wasn’t quite sure how open I wanted to be on this blog. But, I think this is an opportunity to share my struggles and how I’m finding the silver linings in those struggles. I’m sure I’m not the only one dealing with this stuff. So, here goes.
I’m 21. I’m a college student. I have an Associate in Arts degree. Im about to begin my senior year in a few short months. Next year, I will graduate with a Bachelor of Science in Psychology. In the following years, I hope to finish a Masters degree in Counseling Psychology. I will be the first in my family to graduate college. That alone is an insane accomplishment. I understand how amazing it is to GET to go to college. Not HAVE to go.
While I was scheduling classes for next semester, someone told me something that I couldn’t seem to shake. Something like,
You’re a traditional college student because of your age. But you’re not traditional because you’re married.
Now, she didn’t have an ill meaning behind it. She was just stating the facts. I am 21. I am about to graduate college. I am married. For some reason, however, I couldn’t understand how being married deemed me not traditional. I share the same struggles, if not more, as every other kid sitting in the classroom. I put in all the work, the hours, the stress. Being married doesn’t change the criteria for earning a degree. Then before I knew it, like I always do, I was creating all this anxiety about nothing.
I’m making my own traditions.
I’m a 21 year old who has been married for over 2 years now. I’m a 21 year old who is about to earn a Bachelors degree. I am a 21 year old who has purchased two bad-a$$ Jeeps. I am a 21 year old who is about to purchase a home. I am a 21 year old who is and has been trying to start a family(another story). I am a 21 year old who loves Jesus and knows that if I work hard and have faith, He will help me reach my goals. I am a 21 year that is making her own traditions because I don’t want to fit into anyone else’s. And I’m so okay with that.